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@pasteurtran says:

Invest in yourself. Why you SHOULD or SHOULDN’T buy this book. I would like to start with: Each review here has it’s merits. The good ones AND the bad ones. Prepare for a lot of text.Firstly about the Author:The book was written by Mark Manson. From what I gather, he’s a traveler and has helped men around the globe with psychological, sexual and ‘connection’ issues with women. He owns and runs the website [...] and has a few products there.The Book:The underlying theme I personally felt was about “investing in yourself” and being ‘honest’. Having read a few PUA books, I felt this was its strong point. The book goes through a few parts, I may need to put a disclaimer here but this is how I felt about the book:1. You are first introduced to the author and go through a few stories. One did hit the nail on the head with me. Mark then goes through different types of men and women.2. You are then introduced to the theme of ‘investing in yourself’ – by investing in yourself, you reduce your ‘neediness’ and hence in turn become more ‘attractive’. The principle is by actually having a voice, being who you want to be – you will actually find women who you want to be around, and more importantly you will most likely stand out around the crowd.3. Mark then goes through his 3 key principles to achieve this: Honest Living, Honest Action and Honest Communication. By living who YOU want to be, by doing things that express who YOU are and by communicating YOUR honest thoughts – you will in turn become ‘attractive’.The parts that resonated with me:1. Don’t fear rejection2. The more people you meet in life (through rejection) can only lead to meeting more people that you want to actually be with.3. ‘Demographics’ – go to places where you will most likely find people you want to be with.4. Express who you are and be proud of it.5. Know your intentions – go out with those intentions.6. You don’t need openers. Just be yourself – ‘My name is ______’ works just fine.7. Polarize people as soon as you can (shift them from attracted / not attracted )There are other gems in the book I’m sure. After filtering in through all the reviews and comments I felt that I needed to write this review for those who are on the fence.What to EXPECT:1. A ‘guide’ to approaching women through honesty2. A way to meet people you will most likely enjoy to be with in the future.3. Build some confidence – get out there boy 4. I want to state number 1 again: honesty is the key theme here.5. Arguably a ‘long term solution’ & Arguably a more mature one?What NOT to EXPECT:1. This is not holy grail of knowledge, some of it is obvious. Hence why some reviews stated they knew most of this stuff. If you are living a great life (job etc), you are clear in your opinions and intentions, and you can communicate well don’t bother with this book. You already got it =)2. You won’t get pick up lines, theories or openers.3. You will not learn how to become the ultimate player – if that is your intention – there are great PUA options out there.4. You will not attract ALL women – you will increase your chances to attract women that are more likely to be attracted in the ‘real’ you.5. Numbers game. He hates it – so if you want to sleep with lots and lots of women and already doing so – read something else. Like I said – plenty of PUA books that tackle that.Why is it NOT 5 stars?1. You will note reviews on Amazon are very directed to how Mark has ‘an agenda’ in this book. I felt this agenda was that he is a bit ‘against’ Pick Up Artists (who don’t use honesty – through tricks and things that clearly aren’t who they are). Many times he will reflect on how PUAs don’t use honesty and hence you won’t find people for the long term. He did however state this in the book description. I don’t like it when an author needs to constantly validate his method against PUAs. Just once is fine, not consistently. I also respect some PUAs I know and they are as direct as they can be – they aren’t all about tricks.2. My grammar is bad – but I am very certain this book was not proof read. It’s messy and a bit over the place in terms of actual text. If you read the book, you will understand I am very strict to this sense only because he reads quite a bit of literature – he should also appreciate that paying readers expect a book that has been proof read.3. It was not concise, when at many times it could have been. Again – I pitch this as a problem since he teaches us to be concise.I personally liked the book – would of given it 3.5/5 (I’m going to round up here). I think its down to earth and very personal. You will see swear words, you will read Mark’s stories, and you will find a gem that reminds you that you are unique. In a nutshell – it’s a lifestyle book. I’m confident after reading this…

S. Dhonre says:

Signals the Evolution of Dating Advice (or Pickup Theory) with a Mature Approach 0